Q. What if I have no ring for my man
I asked you "How do I propose to my Man".. now here's the kicker.. What do I do if I can't afford the ring to go with the Proposal? So I have a ring? If not, would the proposal be real or authentic. Is it offensive? Is my Love enough to propose with out a ring? Any suggestions what to use instead of a real RING? Maybe a peice of string? I am at a loss. - Norfolk

A. Having responded to the first question, now to go for the “kicker”. I think it is appropriate to give a gift that demonstrates your feelings toward him and makes him feel a welcome part of your life, including your family. What you are describing is an important gift that represents your relationship, so it needs to be equally important, but not necessarily expensive; sad to say the string idea won’t fly with me. It should be more permanent. I would suggest a gold ring, maybe a signet ring, or a nice watch. You could even give a nice pen or pair of cufflinks. Whatever, I would suggest you engrave something to commemorate the gift, and give it in a way that will be memorable; it is especially good if you can give it in a way that he can tell the story to others whenever he has or uses the gift. It could be engraved with something simple like the date with your initials or longer like a poem or Bible verse, if appropriate. You do not need to spend a lot of money, but I would think that a couple hundred dollars would do the job. There are many other ways to show your feelings. You could make him a special meal and have your kids (depending on their ages) make him a card or draw him a picture. I treasure the cards my kids make me (of course my kids may be younger than yours, I have six, six and under!) You could even send him an E mail card- I just got a great one from my wife for no other reason than she loves me-which is the nicest card to get. As to engagement rings, or the older “betrothal ring”, this needs to be more permanent as it symbolizes a “covenental” relationship which involves certain promises and rewards. I can tell you that these rewards of a good and lasting relationship with someone you love and who loves you for all of your flaws, is one of the greatest miracles of this life. Grace and peace, David Nygaard

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